Helping hands in service

Fitting into Our New Service Roles

Apr 28, 2024

When I came to Al-Anon, I did not think I would ever grow as much as I really did from this program. As a matter of fact, my personal growth was probably the furthest thing from my mind.

As I’m beginning to fit into my new service role, as your Alternate Delegate, I see an even deeper meaning of unconditional love, strength, and harmony.

Every effort I make to step out of my comfort zone is noticed, by me. When I choose to spend my time doing service, it is a way of me showing my self, self love, and showing you love too.

Feeling and seeing the confidence others see in me gives me immeasurable joy. The feeling that I too can accomplish great things, with the help and guidance of others. I am cared for and loved.

Coming to learn that, mistakes are proof that I’m trying, and no longer feeling like a failure when I do make mistakes as they may not really be mistakes, a Higher Power may be at work.

As I’m  writing this, I’m reminded of the, 4 C’s of service, the 1st year as DR, I was confused; 2nd year, Comfortable; 3rd year, Confident; and the 4th year cocky. Perhaps, that’s why we rotate every 3 years. 

Stepping up, for me, is a way of furthering my personal growth. As I continue to develop in Al-Anon service, I see the changes in my life as well. For me, it’s one thing when others say they see changes in me, and it’s quite another when I can notice the difference myself. 

Gifts received as a GR and a DR:

  • Self-confidence and self-esteem
  • A greater understanding of how to apply Al-Anon’s spiritual principles.
  • Opportunities for other service experiences
  • More information about the Worldwide Al-Anon and how that works.

I think the most important thing I learned about in my service journey so far, is how to instinctively ask for help when things get difficult. I can humble myself and recognize when I can’t do something. Instead of acting in ways the old Suzanne would like; getting frustrated, angry, walking away. Honestly, and this is an honest program, still, I don’t always ask. Sometimes, I have trouble recognizing the need to ask and it is recognized by others for me. Then I’m led by the gentle guidance that I’m so privileged to be a part of, my circle of hope.


Suzanne H.
Alternate Delegate
Panel 64 – 2024 – 2026